4 Jul 2020
Webinar on Emotional Intelligence
Resource Person : Veena Jain, Founder, Jagruth, Counselling Psychologist
Date : 04th July 2020
Conducted By : CTDS
About the Activity:
When emotions run high, we do and say things we normally would not. This is what a young child does all the time. This just needs to be handled properly
Emotional self-regulation is the ability to manage one’s experience and expression of emotions. We need to teach this also to the children. As handling emotions is going to be a part of their lives always so they need to know how to deal with it.
Today, we focus on academic achievement in childhood, emotions have been largely ignored. This is a poor strategy, as emotional sound people remain happy and content and this surely is an important factor in life.
Children who handle their emotions well have good self-control and are therefore healthier, made more money, and were less likely to have criminal records or trouble with alcohol or any other addiction.Feelings serve a purpose
The import aspect of emotional intelligence is awareness and understanding of emotions. We have to understand anything to solve it and the same is true of emotions too.
For instance, sadness is an emotion uniquely capable of slowing us down, both in thought and motor activity. Anger increases our energy sending blood to our extremities. Now, extreme anger was perhaps necessary in an era where we have to fight to survive but this is certainly not relevant anymore. Hence, anger now needs to be handled and controlled.
Basically, children need the experience of feeling all emotions and practice handling them as appropriate.Increasing your child’s emotional intelligence
How parents respond to their children’s emotions is important to understand. Let us examine some of them
1. Dismissing parents see children’s emotions as unimportant and attempt to eliminate them quickly, often through the use of distraction.
2. Disapproving parents see negative emotions as something to be squashed, usually through punishment.
3. Laissez-faire parents accept all emotions from child, but fail to help the child solve problems or put limits on appropriate behaviors.
4. Parents who understand emotions are not impatient with a child’s expression of them, and use this an opportunity for bonding by offering guidance through labeling emotions and problem-solving the issue at hand.Suggestions for teaching emotional intelligence to children
We all must see emotions as an opportunity for connection and teaching.This is not an inconvenience but offers possibilities. It is an opportunity to connect with the child and coach them to handle a challenging feeling.
With complete listening, we shall be able to make them feel no emotion is bad but they need to know how to handle it. They need to know all emotions are acceptable but all reactions are not. For instance, anger cannot result it violence. Here, patience is important. We could teach them all of this as this is indeed an important lesson they surely need to learn.Conclusion
Emotions are an important part of life and we all surely need to make this a part of life’s education to lead a complete and holistic life.